Men's Club

THE CONVERSATION

We begin our conversation by examining the following saying. This is an A and B conversation, so C your way out. Simplistic first thoughts that come to mind are privacy issues, or who asked  for your opinion. However, this expression upon further consideration, elicits more subliminal messaging. Someone who is proffering an opinion based on hearing a singular conversation lacks standing. They probably are unaware of the history of previous conversations between parties A and B. Their uninformed opinions could lead to a tipping point in an already tense situation. What is the source of an opinion? Is it based on researched facts, or merely subjective conjecture form hearsay or multiple third party expressed opinions. Editorializing is fraught with dangerous biased perspectives. Prior differences or downright grudges between party C with A or B can be an invasive force, totally changing the course of the conversation. A more detrimental effect of party C entering the conversation is the opportunity for malicious gossip to be spread about parties A and B, which can have the       unintended consequences of impairing or destroying lifelong friendships and relationships.

It is much more prudent to enter a conversation from a position of strength based on the knowledge of facts and or similar direct experiences. Otherwise, all you can contribute to a conversation is understanding or sympathy, which may be helpful or not helpful.

Hashem cautioned us it is not acceptable behavior to be a talebearer. Take heed to be reflective and rehearse in your mind the potential consequences of the words you are about to speak, before your mouth opens and your lips move. Always     remember, once words are spoken, they cannot be taken back.

Sometimes the words that go unspoken, are the kindest words.